爱就要连续做40天！

如果你想得到真爱，请按照以下方法连续做四十天，记住，爱是无条件的给予，如果你总想着回报，那不是真爱。
Love Dare – Day 1
Resolve to say nothing negative about your spouse today.
今天，请努力，不说有关配偶的坏话 (负面的评价)，一句也不说。
Love Dare – Day 2
Do at least one unexpected gesture to your spouse as an act of kindness.
至少做一件让配偶意想不到的事情，来表示你对配偶的好意和善心。
Love Dare – Day 3
Buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking about you today.”
给配偶买点东西，来表述心意说：“我今天想着你！”
Love Dare – Day 4
Contact your spouse sometime during the day and ask how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
给配偶打个电话或留个言，问个好，看是否能帮他/她做点什么。
Love Dare – Day 5
Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them.
询问配偶，让他/她告诉你三件事，三件你让配偶在平时生活中感觉不爽的事情。请千万留意你不要因此而反击你的配偶。
Love Dare – Day 6
Choose to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation.
请选择用友爱的方式，而不是用怒火来应对婚姻中的礁石。
Love Dare – Day 7
On a sheet of paper, write out positive things about your spouse. At some point during the day, pick a positive attribute from the list and thank your spouse for having the characteristic.
在一页纸上，罗列出配偶的优点。然后，时不时地从中找出一两项，来赞扬和感激配偶的这些优良品质。
Love Dare – Day 8
Share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
告诉你的配偶，你为他/她最近引以为豪的成就，感到由衷的快乐和喜悦。
Love Dare – Day 9
Think of a way to greet your spouse today to reflect your love for them, and then do it with a smile and enthusiasm.
今天，想出一招去问候你的配偶，带着微笑和热情使出此招，来表达对配偶的爱意。
Love Dare – Day 10
Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse.
今天，为配偶做点非同寻常的事情。
Love Dare – Day 11
What need does your spouse have that you could meet today
你的配偶有什么需求正好是你今天可以满足他/她的？
Love Dare – Day 12
Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse.
为了展示爱情，在你和配偶意见分歧的一个方面，心甘情愿地选择妥协和让步。
Love Dare – Day 13
Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement and resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.
和配偶协商，共同规划健康友好的条约来解决分歧，在以后的意见不合的时候，努力遵守并执行此条约。
Love Dare – Day 14
Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse.
为了和配偶有更多高质量的相处时间，有意放弃一项你自己通常会做的活动。
Love Dare – Day 15
Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine.
选择一途，超越寻常的自我，来表达对配偶的敬意和尊重。
Love Dare – Day 16
Pray for three specific areas where you desire for God to work in your spouse’s life and in your marriage.
祈求上帝改良你配偶生命中和你婚姻生活中的三个方面。
Love Dare – Day 17
Determine to guard your mate’s secrets and pray for them.
下定决心，守护你配偶的秘密，并为之祷告。
Love Dare – Day 18
Prepare a special dinner at home and focus this time on getting to know your spouse better.
在家里为配偶准备一顿特别的晚宴，在共进晚餐的浪漫之际，更深更好地了解你的配偶。
Love Dare – Day 19
Ask God to show you where you stand with him, and ask for the strength and grace to settle your eternal destination.
恳求上帝让你明白你和他的关系，向他祈求力量和恩惠，来安置你永恒的家。
Love Dare – Day 20
Dare to take God at his word and trust Jesus Christ for salvation.
勇于听从上帝的话语，并且相信基督耶稣是救主。
Love Dare – Day 21
Make time to pray and read your bible today.
今天，挤出时间向上帝祷告，并阅读圣经。
Love Dare – Day 22
Choose to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it.
选择矢志不渝地忠于执守你对配偶的爱情，纵然对方已经对此意兴阑珊。
Love Dare – Day 23
Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.
除去所有的”第三者”，这些东西有损健康的夫妻关系，偷窃你对配偶的爱情，夺走你对配偶的爱心。
Love Dare – Day 24
Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it.
找出你生命中每一项不良嗜好，并将之抛弃。
Love Dare – Day 25
If there is anything you haven’t forgiven in your spouse, forgive it today.
如果还有任何事情你还不曾原谅你的配偶，请在今天原谅他/她。
Love Dare – Day 26
Ask for God’s forgiveness for your areas of wrongdoing, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse.
祈求上帝原谅你所做过的错事，然后诚恳谦卑地向你的配偶承认错误。
Love Dare – Day 27
Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you’re sorry for being so hard on them about it.
想一想，你的配偶曾告诉你，你对他期望值太高之处。请在今天为之道歉，对不起，在此事上难为了配偶。
Love Dare – Day 28
Purpose to do what you can to meet the greatest need in your spouse’s life right now.
今天，倾心倾力，尽己所能来令你配偶人生中最大的愿望得以实现。
Love Dare – Day 29
Before you see your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs.
今天，在再见到配偶之前，专门为他们的需要祈祷。
Love Dare – Day 30
Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse and, if appropriate, discuss it openly and seek God for unity.
祈求上帝向你揭示你内心隐藏的有碍夫妻同心的意念，如果可行，和配偶共商，向上帝寻求同一的心。
Love Dare – Day 31
Commit to God and your spouse to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.
向上帝和配偶承诺，婚姻是你所有人际关系中的首选项，最为优先项.
Love Dare – Day 32
If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your spouse today(in a way that honors them).
今天，如果可能，主动献殷勤，向配偶提供尊重体贴的贴身服务。
Love Dare – Day 33
Tell your spouse that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel.
告诉配偶你很想让之参与以后所有事情的决策过程，你需要配偶的观感和劝告。
Love Dare – Day 34
Verbally commend your spouse about a recent time when they demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way.
口头赞扬配偶，有关最近在他/她身上明显观察到的基督徒的品格。
Love Dare – Day 35
Find a Christian marriage mentor. Ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.
找一位基督徒婚姻辅导员。祈求上帝来指导你们的决定，帮助你们分辩是非。
Love Dare – Day 36
Commit to reading the bible every day. If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to reading with you.
决心每天阅读圣经。如果你的配偶愿意，看看是否两人可以共同阅读。
Love Dare – Day 37
Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together.
询问你的配偶是否两人可以开始一同祷告。
Love Dare – Day 38
Ask yourself what your spouse would want if it was obtainable, then map out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires.
问问自己，什么东西是你的配偶渴望得到的，同时又是你能够给予的？然后，制订出可行计划来满足配偶的其中一些(如果不是全部)的愿望
Love Dare – Day 39
Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Leave it in a place where you mate will find it.
花点时间为自己的事祷告，然后给配偶写一封信，表达你对婚姻的承诺和决心。把信放在配偶肯定不会错过的地方。
Love Dare – Day 40
Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home.
写出你们结婚誓言的续篇，放于家中，(刻在心里) 。
推荐一部电影，美国2008年的《消防员》，破裂的婚姻用40天践行爱的行动，最终破镜重圆。
When it's love you give (I'll be a man of good faith)
Then in love you live (I'll make a stand, I won't break)
I'll be the rock you can build on
Be there when you're old, to have and to hold
When there's love inside (I swear I'll always be strong)
Then there's a reason why (I'll prove to you we belong)
I'll be the wall that protects you
From the wind and the rain
From the hurt and the pain
Let's make it all for one and all for love
Let the one you hold be the one you want
The one you need
'Cause when it's all for one it's one for all
When there's someone that should know
Then just let your feelings show
And make it all for one and all for love
When it's love you make (I'll be the fire in your night)
Then it's love you take (I will defend, I will fight)
I'll be there when you need me
When honour's at stake, this vow I will make
That it's all for one and all for love
Let the one you hold be the one you want
The one you need
'Cause when it's all for one it's one for all
When there's someone that should know
Then just let your feelings show
And make it all for one and all for love
Don't lay our love to rest
'Cause we could stand up to your test
We got everything and more than we had planned
More than the rivers that run the land
We've got it all in our hands
Now it's all for one and all for love (It's all for love)
Let the one you hold be the one you want
The one you need
'Cause when it's all for one it's one for all
When there's someone that should know
Then just let your feelings show
When there's someone that you want
When there's someone that you need
Let's make it all, all for one and all for love